Does Alcohol Really Help You Relax? Understanding the Effects

Alcohol and Stress: Myths vs. Reality

Think of how many “person-unwinding-after-a-hard-day-with-alcohol” scenes crop up in movies, TV shows, and books. It would seem to be a perfectly normal stress response.

In reality, the stress-relieving idea and the normalcy of this ritual both prove to be myths.

The Myth of Alcohol as a Stress Reliever

Alcohol only changes your ability to notice your stress—it doesn’t take any bit of it away. It may dampen the sensations of stress, which some people experience more pronouncedly than others⁹, but doesn’t solve the underlying issue. Momentary distractions like this may feel like an adequate solution, but they can cause much more harm than the initial stressor itself.

The Reality: Alcohol’s Impact on Stress and Mental Health

Over time, alcohol can actually raise levels of stress and worsen (or cause) mental health conditions¹⁰ like depression and anxiety. It can also make you more irritable and emotionally volatile. 

Its negative effects on sleep can also worsen mental health conditions and cause additional stress¹¹. Fleeting relief from negative emotions comes with a high price, but it doesn’t have to.

Healthier Alternatives to Alcohol for Relaxation

For a comprehensive list of ways to relax without alcohol, check out our article here.

Meditation and Deep Breathing Techniques

Your mind and lungs can be powerful tools in inducing relaxation. 

Next time stress overwhelms, try sitting down and playing a guided meditation session. Search the app store on your phone to find dozens of meditation apps to choose from.

Either separately or alongside your meditation, try a paced breathing technique. Deep, slow breathing tells your brain you aren’t under threat. Examples of breathing techniques include

• Box breathing: Breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 4, exhale for 4, hold for 4, and start the cycle again.
• Belly breathing: Focus on expanding your stomach as you breathe. When you breathe out, decompress your stomach as much as you can. This is also called diaphragmatic breathing—try putting your hand on your stomach to feel it rise and fall.

Physical Exercise

Exercise lowers levels of stress hormones¹², helping you feel more relaxed. You don’t have to do certain exercises to get these benefits, just find a way of moving that works for you. You could try

• Walking
• Weightlifting
• Jumproping
• Running
• Climbing the stairs in your house/apartment
• Swimming

Developing an exercise routine can help you stick to your goals, like working out before you head into work. And, you can use exercise as-needed to manage acute stress—like doing jumping jacks before or after a stressful situation.

Music and Creative Outlets

Creative expression can also relieve stress¹³ by engaging the mind and body in a pleasurable, open-minded way. Art and music can alter your perception of the stressful event by helping you take a step back from it. Keeping your hands busy can also help you process stressful events without feeling overwhelmed.

Examples of creative outlets include

• Doodling
• Painting
• Singing
• Listening to music
• Creative writing
• Poetry

Building Sustainable Relaxation Habits

Identifying Triggers for Alcohol Use

Identifying what triggers an urge to drink can help you proactively avoid and prepare for these scenarios, including stress. For example, maybe certain days of the week feel more stressful, like Mondays. Planning a relaxing activity on these days can help manage that stress, and give you peace of mind knowing you have a plan and won’t need to resort to alcohol.

Other situations could include social settings, like a party or event. You might feel stressed and want to use alcohol to numb the nerves and help you be more social—plan ahead by practicing breathing techniques (or other coping skills) before the event and opt for non-alcoholic drinks to limit your alcohol intake.

Creating a Relaxation Routine

Block off time to relax and write down your favorite relaxation techniques. Do one or more relaxation techniques during the time you block off, like a meditation before bed or spending time outside after work. Incorporating relaxation into your daily routines can help it become habitual. 

Seeking Support for Alcohol Dependence

Sometimes you need more than stress relief—developing a physical and emotional dependence on alcohol takes medical care to safely reverse. Set up an appointment with your primary care provider to voice your concerns and learn your next steps. Helpful conversation points include

• “Should I be concerned about my symptoms?”
• “What can I do to stop being dependent on alcohol?”
• “Will I need a medical detox to start my treatment?”
• “Would you recommend alcohol rehab?”
• “What strategies or treatments can I start using right away?”

Your doctor may refer you to therapy, outpatient alcohol addiction treatment, or residential rehab for alcohol addiction. Detoxing at a rehab or hospital may be a necessary first step; make sure you ask your doctor for their medical opinion. You can use Recovery.com to find rehabs and outpatient programs that treat alcohol addiction.

The Reality of Alcohol and Relaxation

Alcohol isn’t a healthy or sustainable relaxation tool, but relaxation techniques relevant to your preferences and needs are. Fill your toolbox with techniques like breathing exercises, meditation, exercise, creative expression, and more to cope with stress without alcohol. Planning ahead for stressful situations can help you feel more prepared and empowered.