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7 Tips for Being a Good Friend to Someone in Recovery

7 Tips for Being a Good Friend to Someone in Recovery
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McCarton Ackerman
McCarton Ackerman
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McCarton Ackerman is a communications and content professional specializing in digital content and social media for health and wellness, and currently serves as Director of Communications for the Mubadala Citi DC Open.

Updated November 15, 2022

Although rehab is a powerful step for someone struggling with substance use, it’s what they do after treatment that will be most crucial to their long-term sobriety. Friendship and support is essential to this process, but many times people don’t know how they can help someone in addiction recovery, especially if they don’t have a substance abuse problem themselves. Luckily, many of the things you can do to help are simple acts that amount to being the caring friend you already were. Here are seven easy ways that you can help someone in recovery.

Be Yourself

It’s important for people in recovery to not feel as though they’re different from their friends just because they can’t drink anymore or they have to avoid certain situations. While you should absolutely avoid taking a newly sober friend to a bar or other social activity that involves substances, the way you act around them should remain the same as before. Simply put: be yourself and your old friendship will likely be reclaimed.

Learn Relapse Warning Signs

Unfortunately, relapses do happen – they typically occur within the first year of sobriety. Before your friend reaches the low points of their addiction again, learn the warning signs of a relapse and what actions you can take if you see this occurring.

Just Listen

Sometimes all a person in recovery needs is a non-judgmental ear. Especially in the early stages of recovery, a newly sober person may begin experiencing thoughts and emotions they previously tried to avoid through substance use. Asking non-accusatory questions or just simply listening can help them work through their own issues and break down the barriers in your friendship.

Share Your Own Struggles

Your friend’s substance use may have impacted or hurt you as well, so it’s also important that you get a chance to work through those issues. In a non-accusatory way, explain to your friend how their drug or alcohol use affected your life and your friendship. Most recovering addicts are eager to repair the relationships that were tainted by substance abuse. The urge to heal prompts most newly sober people to happily listen to and support their friends’ feelings.

Encourage Healthy Habits

Find substance-free activities that the two of you can do together including cooking, working out or spending time outdoors. It’s important for a person in recovery to realize that being sober isn’t the end of their social life.

Be Patient

Recovery is a marathon and not a sprint. People who make mistakes in the recovery process are only human, so it’s important for them to know that, as a true friend, you will support them as long as they remain committed to getting better.

Join a Support Group

In addition to encouraging your friend to join a support group where recovering addicts can meet other recovering addicts, there are also a number of groups that specifically cater to the friends and loved ones of people in recovery. You should definitely consider joining one of these groups; the knowledge you gain will ultimately make your friendship stronger and healthier. Learn more about the recovery process and living in sobriety.

Get Help For Yourself or A Loved One Today

Recovery may seem daunting, but effective help is available. Explore residential drug rehabs or specialized alcohol addiction treatment programs to find the right environment for healing. Use our free tool to search for addiction treatment by insurance, location, and amenities now.


FAQs

A: Being supportive means offering consistent encouragement, empathy, and understanding while respecting your friend’s recovery journey. Friends can help create a safe, non-judgmental environment that boosts a person’s confidence and reduces feelings of isolation during recovery.

A: Helpful support includes listening without judgment, validating emotions, celebrating progress, and avoiding criticism or pressure. It’s equally important to avoid enabling by not making excuses for past harmful behaviors or ignoring unhealthy patterns.

A: Learning about the recovery process helps you better understand what your friend is experiencing and enables you to offer informed, compassionate support. Knowledge reduces stigma and helps you communicate more effectively when your friend faces setbacks or challenges.

A: Respecting boundaries means listening when your friend needs space, not pushing them into activities or conversations they’re uncomfortable with, and checking in regularly without overstepping. Healthy friendships balance care with respect for individual recovery needs.

A: Yes, celebrating both big and small achievements (like milestones in sobriety or personal growth) can boost motivation and reinforce positive change. Acknowledging progress shows your friend their efforts matter and that you’re proud of them.

A: You don’t need to be an expert to be a good friend. Basic actions like asking how they’re doing, listening actively, and showing up consistently are powerful forms of support. Over time, learning more about addiction and recovery can deepen your ability to empathize and show support.

A: Supporting someone in recovery can be emotionally challenging. Make sure you also take care of your own well-being by setting healthy boundaries, seeking support for yourself, and suggesting they access professional help or peer support groups. Balance compassion for your friend with care for your own mental health.

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